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'''Compersion''' is a term used by practitioners of [[polyamory]] or [[swinger]]s to describe the experience of taking pleasure when one's partner is with another person. It was originally coined by the [[Kerista Commune]] in San Francisco<ref name="PolySoc">{{cite web|title=Polyamory Society Glossary | url=http://www.polyamorysociety.org/glossary.html | accessdate=2006-12-26}}</ref> (or possibly by the [[ZEGG (community)|ZEGG community]] in Germany)<ref name="PolyOz">[http://polyoz.dhs.org/component/option,com_rd_glossary/task,view/id,33/ PolyOz - Polyamory Resources Australia Inc. - RD Glossary<!-- Bot generated title -->]</ref> which practiced [[polyfidelity]], and has since been adopted throughout the culture of polyamory. The term is often expressed as "the opposite of [[jealousy]]",<ref name="PolyOz" /> since that term is used to describe one's pain at a lover's experiences with others.
==Formal definitions==
* [http://polyoz.dhs.org/ PolyOz] define compersion as "the positive feelings one gets when a lover is enjoying another relationship. Sometimes called the opposite or flip side of jealousy." They comment that compersion can coexist with jealous feelings.<ref name="PolyOz" />
* The [http://www.polyamorysociety.org/ Polyamory society] defines compersion to be "the feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves, especially taking joy in the knowledge that your beloveds are expressing their love for one another."<ref name="PolySoc" />
==Related terms==
The adjective ''frubbly'' and the noun ''frubbles'' are sometimes used, in the poly community in the [[United Kingdom]] and the [[United States]], to describe the feeling of compersion.<ref>{{cite news| title = Free love gets a fit of the wibbles | url = http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk_news/story/0,,1451809,00.html | first = Steven | last = Alexander | work = Guardian Unlimited | date = [[2005-04-04]] | accessdate = 2006-07-05}}</ref> These terms are more suited to cheerful, light-hearted conversation, and they are more grammatically versatile, for example: "I'm feeling all frubbly" and "Their relationship fills me with frubbles".
==References==
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==See also==
* [[Terminology within polyamory]]
* [[Jealousy]]
* [[Acceptance]]
* [[Mudita]] (Pali or Buddhist term for "sympathetic joy")
==External links==
*[http://www.polyamorysociety.org/compersion.html The Polyamory Society's Compersion Index]
*[http://polyoz.dhs.org/ polyoz.dhs.org]
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