Relational aggression 2466490 224096642 2008-07-07T08:15:47Z 121.222.3.121 Diagnosis {{Expand|date=April 2007}} '''Relational aggression''' is psychological (social/emotional) [[aggression]] between people in relationships. Relational aggression is a form of aggression where the group is used as a weapon to assault others and others' relationships. It uses lies, secrets, betrayals and other dishonest tactics to destroy or damage the relationships and social standing of others in the group. Also known as covert [[bullying]]<ref>McGrath, Mary Jo: "School Bullying: Tools for Avoiding Harm and Liability", Corwin Press, p. 21.</ref>, social aggression <ref>Underwood, Marion K.: "Social Aggression among Girls", The Guilford Press, 2003.</ref>, "female [[bullying]]"<ref>Dellasega, Cheryl and Nixon, Charisse: "Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying", Fireside Press.</ref>, family [[bullying]] or serial [[bullying]]<ref>Bullying in the Family, UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line web page, as of 19 February 2007 from [http://www.bullyonline.org/related/family.htm ].</ref>, it is a covert form of aggression, used by both men and women in relationships. It is less well-known than physical forms of aggression and therefore much more difficult to detect. Often, the victim may not know the abuser is lying or gossiping about the victim, and the abuser may even pretend to befriend the victim. Although modern understanding of relational aggression arose from the study of cliques of girls in school, and despite the fact that the term "female [[bullying]]" is often used synonymously with "relational aggression", relational aggression is seen at times in women and men of all ages in spousal, familial, sexual, social, community, political, and religious settings. <ref>Ophelia Project FAQ, from [http://www.opheliaproject.org/main/relational_aggression.htm], as of 19 February 2007</ref> Research seems to indicate differences in the types of relational aggression typical to children of different ages. Younger children are more likely to use direct forms of relational aggression, e.g., "You can't come to my birthday party." In contrast, older children are more likely to use more covert methods of harm, e.g., by making up demeaning stories about the victim and passing them around at school or other environments where social standing is important to the victim. ==Forms of Relational Abuse== {{unreferenced section|date=January 2008}} * [[Gossip]] - Where the abuser tells others personal information about the victim. * [[Lies]] - Where the abuser lies about the victim to others. * [[Betrayal]] - Where the abuser breaks agreements with the victim. * [[Isolation]] - Where the abuser prevents the victim from socializing with the victim's friends. * [[Exclusion]] - Where the abuser prevents the victim from socializing with the abuser's friends. * [[Humiliation]] - Where the abuser humiliates or shames the victim in front of others. ==Origin of the term== The term '''relational aggression''' was first coined in a 1995 study by Crick and Grotpeter. <ref>The Ophelia Project RA Information Site, [http://www.opheliaproject.org/main/ra_facts.htm].</ref> Despite the novelty of the term, it has gained usage in books, popular articles, academic papers, web sites and even in the title of research conferences. <ref>e.g., the "2nd Research Conference on Relational Aggression" was held at University of Buffalo, SUNY, in 2006, as per [http://wings.buffalo.edu/psychology/labs/SocialDevLab/conference.htm], web site accessed 20 February 2007.</ref> ==Abusive relationships== An '''abusive relationship''' is an [[interpersonal relationship]] characterized by the use or threat of [[physical abuse|physical]] or [[psychological abuse]] (see [[battered woman defense|battered woman syndrome]]). Abusive relationships are often characterized by jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, infidelity, sexual coercion, verbal abuse, broken promises, physical violence, control games and power plays.[http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm]. Abusive relationships are often progressive. That is, the abuse may get worse over time. ==Diagnosis planning== The [[American Psychiatric Association]] planning and research committees for the forthcoming DSM-V (2012) have canvassed a series of new [[Relational disorder]]s which include ''Marital Conflict Disorder Without Violence'' or ''Marital Abuse Disorder (Marital Conflict Disorder With Violence)''.<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, pp.164,166 Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> Couples with marital disorders sometimes come to clinical attention because the couple recognize long-standing dissatisfaction with their [[marriage]] and come to the [[clinician]] on their own initiative or are referred by an astute health care professional. Secondly, there is serious [[violence]] in the marriage which is '''-"usually the husband battering the wife" '''.<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.163, Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> In these cases the emergency room or a legal authority often is the first to notify the [[clinician]]. Most importantly, marital violence "is a major risk factor for serious injury and even death and women in violent marriages are at much greater risk of being seriously injured or killed ([[National Advisory Council on Violence Against Women]] 2000)."<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.166, Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> The authors of this study add that "There is current considerable controversy over whether male-to-female marital violence is best regarded as a reflection of male [[psychopathology]] and [[control]] or whether there is an empirical base and clinical utility for conceptualizing these patterns as relational."<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.166, Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> Recommendations for clinicians making a diagnosis of ''Marital Relational Disorder'' should include the assessment of actual or "potential" male violence as regularly as they assess the potential for [[suicide]] in depressed patients. Further, "clinicians should not relax their vigilance after a battered [[wife]] leaves her [[husband]], because some data suggest that the period immediately following a marital separation is the period of greatest risk for the women. Many men will [[stalk]] and [[batter]] their wives in an effort to get them to return or punish them for leaving. Initial assessments of the potential for violence in a marriage can be supplimented by standardized interviews and questionnaires, which have been reliable and valid aids in exploring marital violence more systematically."<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.166, Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> The authors conclude with what they call "very recent information"<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.167,168 Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> on the course of violent marriages which suggests that "over time a husband's battering may abate somewhat, but perhaps because he has successfully [[intimidate]]d his wife. The risk of violence remains strong in a marriage in which it has been a feature in the past. Thus, treatment is essential here; the clinician cannot just wait and watch."<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.167,168 Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> The most urgent clinical priority is the protection of the wife because she is the one most frequently at risk, and clinicians must be aware that supporting assertiveness by a battered wife may lead to more beatings or even death.<ref>First, M.B., Bell, C.C., Cuthbert, B., Krystal, J.H., Malison, R., Offord, D.R., Riess, D., Shea, T., Widiger, T., Wisner, K.L., Personality Disorders and Relational Disorders, p.167,168 Chapter 4 of Kupfer, D.J., First, M.B., & Regier, D.A. [http://appi.org/book.cfm?id=2292 A Research Agenda For DSM-V]. Published by American Psychiatric Association (2002)</ref> ==Warning signs of relational aggression== {{Unreferencedsection|date=July 2007}} These are some of the warning signs that may indicate abuse: * Physical harm of any kind * Attempts to control aspects of an individual's life (e.g., how one dresses, who one's friends are, what one says, etc.) * Humiliation * Coercing and/or threats of physical harm to an individual or those close to him/her. * Demands to know where an individual is at all times * Abuse of drugs or alcohol * Growing up witnessing an abusive relationship, and/or was abused as a child * An individual "rages" when they are hurt, shamed, or are in jeopardy of losing control in the relationship. * Online manipulation ie. abuser is poised to hurt victim using knowledge of technology ==See also== * [[Blame]] * [[Bullying]] * [[Domestic violence]] * [[Emotional abuse]] * [[Parental alienation]] * [[Physical abuse]] * [[Shame]] * [[Shunning]] * [[Psychological abuse]] * [[Spiritual abuse]] ==References== {{reflist}} ==Further Reading== ===Books=== * Simmons,Rachel ''Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls. * Underwood, Marian K, ''Social Aggression Among Girls'' * Bennett, Elizabeth ''Peer Abuse Know More! Bullying From A Psychological Perspective'' * Nixon, Charisse & Dellasega, Cheryl, ''Girl Wars'' ===Academic articles=== * Casas, J.F., Weigel, S.M., Crick, N.R., Ostrov, J.M., Woods, K.E., Jansen Yeh, E.A., Huddleston-Casas, C.A. (2006). Early parenting and children’s relational and physical aggression in the preschool and home contexts. Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology, 27, 209-2227. * Crick, N.R. & Grotpeter, J.K (1995). Relational aggression, gender, and social psychological adjustment. Child Development, 66, 710-722. * Crick, N. R., Ostrov, J. F., & Kawabata, Y. (in press). Relational aggression and gender: An overview. Invited chapter to appear in D. J. Flannery, A. Vazsonyi & I. Waldman (Eds.), The Cambridge Handbook of Violent Behavior and Aggression. * Crick, N. R., Ostrov, J. M., & Werner, N. E. (2006). A longitudinal study of relational aggression, physical aggression and children’s social-psychological adjustment. Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 34, 131-142. * Ostrov, J. M., Gentile, D. A., & Crick, N. R. (2006). Media Exposure, Aggression and Prosocial Behavior During Early Childhood: A Longitudinal Study. Social Development, 15, 612-627. ==External links== *[http://www.opheliaproject.org The Ophelia Project - Leading Resource On Relational Aggression] *[http://www.bullyonline.org/related/family.htm Bullying in the Family, UK National Workplace Bullying Advice Line.] *[http://www.hevanet.com/kort/AGRESS1.HTM Relational Aggressor: The New Bully on the Block] *[http://www.relationalaggression.com/ Relational Aggression ] *[http://childrentoday.com/resources/articles/emotionalbullying.htm Emotional Bullying] *[http://www.namesdohurt.com Names Do Hurt] *[http://www.peerabuse.info Peer Abuse Know More! Bullying From A Psychological Perspective] *[http://www.teensagainstabuse.org/ Teens against abuse] *[http://www.survivormatters.co.nr Survivor Matters] Support site created by survivors for survivors of any type of abuse [[Category:Interpersonal relationships]] [[Category:Abuse]] [[Category:Sociology]] [[Category:Aggression]] [[Category:Educational psychology]] [[Category:Injustice]] [[Category:Persecution]] [[tr:İlişkisel saldırganlık]]