Sexual anorexia 3346716 224661723 2008-07-09T21:26:29Z 78.105.171.60 {{Refimprove|article|date=July 2007}}{{Original research|date=April 2008}} '''Sexual anorexia''' is a term used to describe a loss of "appetite" for romantic-sexual interaction such as stemount experiences. However, the term is used broadly and can be better defined as a fear of intimacy to the point that the person has severe anxiety surrounding sex.{{Nathan Hare, 1975, Sylvia Kaplan, 1981, Nathan and Julia Hare, 1989, Patrick Carnes, 1994, and Julia Hare, 2008}). Other practitioners have applied the term in their own way. In the view of some practitioners corroborating the seminal work of Patrick Carnes, there are people that appear to have a [[sexual addiction]] because they frequent [[strip club]]s, [[prostitutes]], [[cyberporn]] sites, etc., but really fit the definition of sexual anorexic because they are terrified of having any kind of [[intimate relationship|relationship]] beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience. The person does not have an aversion to sex but to intimacy. A sex addict is more likely to be capable of being in a more intimate relationship and is often married or in a committed relationship when deciding to get treatment for their addiction. A sexual anorexic may have a social [[phobia]] or be so fragile emotionally that the risk of rejection or criticism is far more terrifying than being isolated. [[Narcissism|Narcissistic]] traits are often seen in both sexual anorexics and sex addicts, but in the sexual anorexic, the traits are considered far more "brittle" and the pain of rejection and criticism is far more excruciating than for the sex addict. Treatment is aimed at helping the person see where his/her fears really are and to see the world in less black and white terms. The patient is encouraged to take calculated risks with social activities and distorted thinking is gently challenged with facts and reality. The goals for both sex addicts and sexual anorexics is to learn to have healthy sex and get emotional needs met in direct ways, and to set healthy boundaries. This is an issue that requires ongoing treatment in planned stages with the end goal of autonomy, independence, and improved social relationships. The concept of "sexual anorexia" was first mentioned by psychologist Nathan Hare in 1975, in an unpublished dissertation submitted in partial fulfillment for a Ph.D. at the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco. Ellen Goodman, the nationally syndicated columnist, revealed psychiatrist Sylvia Kaplan's usage of the concept in 1981; which was quickly noted in the editor's "Notes" in the journal "Black Male/Female Relationships." A book by psychologist Patrick Carnes called "Sexual Anorexia" was published in 1997. Hare's Ph.D. dissertation on "Black Male-Female Relations" (1975) as well as the now defunct journal called "Black Male/Female Relationships" (1979-1982) are available in University Microfilms, from the University of Michigan. See also Nathan and Julia Hare, "Sexual Anorexia," ''Crisis in Black Sexual Politics'', published in 1989 by The Black Think Tank, San Francisco,pp. 137-140, ISBN 0-9613086-2. Julia Hare has also used it in a book, "The Sexual and Political Anorexia of the Black Woman" (June, 2008, ISBN 0-981-7999-090000). ==Further reading== {{cite journal |quotes= |last=Carnes |first=Patrick J. |authorlink= |coauthors= |year=1998 |month=December |title=The case for sexual anorexia: An interim report on 144 patients with sexual disorders|journal=Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity |volume=5 |issue=4 |pages=293–309 |id={{ISSN|1072-0162}} |url= |accessdate=2006-11-27 |doi=10.1080/10720169808402338 }} {{cite journal |quotes= |last=Nelson|first=Laura |authorlink= |coauthors= |year=2003|month=June|title=Sexual addiction versus sexual anorexia and the church’s impact |journal=Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity |volume=10 |issue=2/3 |pages=179–191|id={{ISSN|1072-0162}} |url= |accessdate=2006-11-27|doi=10.1080/10720160390230682 }} ==External links== * [http://www.sexhelp.com/addiction_definitions.cfm What is sex anorexia?] on sexhelp.com [[Category:Pseudoscience]] [[Category:Fringe science]]