Wedding 32893 225811010 2008-07-15T14:48:48Z Deli nk 560563 /* External links */ [[WP:EL]] {{cleanup-rewrite|Several sections on international wedding customs have been translated or written by non-native English speakers, and need to be checked for proper English grammar and citations.}}{{Refimprove|date=April 2008}}{{otheruses}} [[Image:wedding.smallgroup.arp.750pix.jpg|thumb|right|Preparing for the photographs, at a wedding at [[Thornbury Castle]], [[England]]]] A '''wedding''' is a [[ceremony]] that celebrates the beginning of a [[marriage]] or [[civil union]]. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between [[culture]]s, [[ethnic group]]s, [[religion]]s, [[country|countries]], and [[social class]]es. In some countries, cultures and religions, the actual act of marriage begins during the wedding ceremony. In others, the legal act of marriage occurs at the time of signing a [[marriage license]] or other legal document, and the wedding is then an opportunity to perform a traditional ceremony and celebrate with friends and family. A woman being married is called a [[bride]], a man called a [[bridegroom|groom]], and after the ceremony they become a [[wife]] or a [[husband]], respectively. '''Nuptial''' is the [[adjective]] of "wedding". It is used for example in [[zoology]] to denote plumage, coloration, behavior, etc related to or occurring in the [[mating season]]. ==Overview== Most weddings contain [[wedding vows]] and a proclamation of marriage, usually by the officiant. Most weddings also involve wearing traditional clothes (i.e., kilts, white gown, red sari, etc.). A wedding is often followed or accompanied by a [[wedding reception]]. Other elements may include music, poetry, prayer or scripture. Some elements of the traditional wedding ceremony in some Western countries symbolize the bride's departure from her father's control and entry into a new family with her husband. In modern weddings, this symbolism is largely vestigial. [[Image:wedding.carriage.bristol.arp.jpg|thumb|left|A wedding carriage in [[Bristol, England|Bristol]], [[England]]]] The common element in a wedding is the assumption of [[spouse|spousal]] roles by the primary participants. The wedding is a special moment that marks the beginning of a new life together. Often, it is also a precursor to [[parenthood]], marking the promise of a new family and a new generation. This moment is recognized with traditions, ceremonies and rituals including engagement and wedding ceremonies. When it comes to planning a wedding, people often honor traditions, even if they do not fully understand their origin or meaning. Every culture cherishes its own wedding traditions and superstitions. Some of those are closely followed even by those who are normally not superstitious. The figure of a bride in white is an important element of the ritual of marriage in western culture. However, new designs of gown are available so brides today may find themselves attracted to designs that do not look traditional. The symbolism behind the wedding dress, however, has not changed. ==Wedding types and kinds== ===Double wedding=== A '''double wedding''' is a single ceremony where two [[Engagement|affianced]] couples rendezvous for two simultaneous or consecutive weddings. Typically, a fiancé with a [[sibling]] might plan a double wedding with that sibling. In the [[Philippines]], however, the wedding of two siblings within the same year is considered bad luck and is called ''sukob''.{{Fact|date=April 2008}} ===Destination wedding=== A '''destination wedding''' is any wedding in which the engaged couple and/or a majority of their guests travel to attend the ceremony. This could be a beach ceremony in the Caribbean or on the California coast, a lavish event in Las Vegas, or a simple ceremony at the home of a geographically distant friend or relative. ===Weekend wedding=== A '''weekend wedding''' is a wedding in which couples and their guests celebrate over the course of a weekend. Special activities, such as spa treatments and golf tournaments, may be scheduled into the wedding itinerary throughout the weekend. Lodging usually is at the same facility as the wedding and couples often host a Sunday brunch for the weekend's finale. ===White wedding=== {{main|white wedding}} A '''white wedding''' is a term for a traditional formal or semi-formal Western [[wedding]]. This term refers to the color of the [[wedding dress]], which became popular in the [[Victorian era]] and came to symbolize purity of heart and the innocence of childhood. Later attribution suggested that the color white symbolized [[virginity]]. ===Military wedding=== A '''military wedding''' is a ceremony conducted in a military chapel and may involve a [[Saber Arch]]. In most military weddings the groom will wear a military dress uniform in lieu of civilian formalwear, although military dress uniforms largely serve the same purpose. Some retired military personnel who marry after their service has ended may opt for a military wedding. ===Civil wedding=== A '''civil wedding''' is a ceremony presided over by a local civil authority, such as an [[elected]] or appointed [[judge]], [[justice of the peace]] or the [[mayor]] of a locality. Civil wedding ceremonies may use references to [[God]] or a deity (in UK law), but generally no references to a particular religion or [[religious denomination|denomination]]. They can be either elaborate or simple. Many civil wedding ceremonies take place in local town or city halls or courthouses in judge's chambers. ===Sneak wedding=== [[Elopement|Eloping]], the act of getting married behind people's back and without consent or approval. ===Same-sex wedding=== A '''same-sex wedding''' or '''same-gender wedding''' is a ceremony in which two people of the same sex are married or [[civil union|civilly united]]. This may be an official and legally recognized event, or, in places that do not allow [[same-sex marriage]], it may simply be a symbolic ceremony designed to provide the opportunity to make the same public declarations and celebration with friends and family that any other type of wedding may afford. ==International wedding customs== [[Image:Parsee Wedding 1905.JPG|A ''Parsee'' Wedding, 1905|thumb|right]] ===Common elements in wedding customs across cultures=== A number of cultures utilize the western custom of a bride wearing a white dress. This tradition came to symbolize purity in the Victorian era (despite popular misconception, the white dress did not indicate virginity, which was symbolized by the face veil). Within the ‘white wedding’ tradition, a white dress and veil would not have been considered appropriate for a second or third wedding of a widow or a divorcee. The custom of exchanging rings may be the oldest and most universal symbol of marriage, but the origins are unclear.{{Fact|date=May 2008}} The ring’s circular shape represents perfection and never-ending love. The rings are exchanged during the wedding ceremony and symbolize the love, faithfulness and commitment of the marriage union.{{Fact|date=May 2008}} The wedding is often followed by a reception during which the rituals include toasting the bride and groom, the newlyweds' first dance as husband and wife, cake cutting, etc. ====Wedding clothing==== *[[Qipao]] or [[Hanfu]], Chinese traditional formal wear *[[Batik]] and [[Kebaya]], a garment worn by the [[Javanese people|Javanese]] people of [[Indonesia]]. *[[Barong Tagalog]], an embroidered, formal men's garment of the [[Philippines]]. *[[Kimono]], the traditional garments of Japan *[[Sari]], Indian popular and traditional dress in India *[[Dashiki]], the traditional West African wedding attire *[[Ao dai]], traditional garments of Vietnam *[[Morning dress]], men's daytime formal dress *[[Kilt]], male garment particular to [[Scottish culture]]<ref>{{cite web|title=Kilts: tightly woven into Scots culture|url=http://heritage.scotsman.com/clans.cfm?id=41882005|publisher=Scotsman|date=[[2005-02-10]]|accessdate=2007-04-16}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|title=The Scottish Kilt|url=http://www.visitscotland.com/aboutscotland/UniquelyScottish/kilt|publisher=Visit Scotland|accessdate=2007-04-16}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|title=Scottish Culture and Heritage: The Kilt|url=http://www.scotsmart.com/info/culture/kilt.html|publisher=Scotsmart|accessdate=2007-04-16|author=Jim Murdoch}}</ref> *[[Kittel]], a white robe worn by the groom at an Orthodox Jewish wedding. The kittel is worn only under the [[Chupah]], and is removed before the reception. *[[Topor (headgear)|Topor]], a type of conical headgear *[[Tuxedo]] **[[Black tie]] ("dinner jacket" in the UK; traditionally appropriate only for evening weddings but also seen in daytime, especially in the United States) **Non-traditional "tuxedo" variants (colored jackets/ties, "wedding suits") *[[White tie]] ("evening dress" in the UK) *[[Sherwani]], a long coat-like garment worn in South Asia *Wedding [[crown]], worn by Scandinavian brides *Wedding [[veil]] *[[Wedding dress]] ====Music==== =====Western weddings===== [[Wedding music|Music]] often played at western weddings includes a processional song for walking down the aisle (ex: [[Wedding March]]) and reception dance music. Music played at Western weddings includes: *The "[[Bridal Chorus]]" from ''[[Lohengrin (opera)|Lohengrin]]'' by [[Richard Wagner]], often used as the processional and commonly known as "Here Comes the Bride" - Note: Richard Wagner is said to have been [[Anti-Semitic]]<ref>[http://concise.britannica.com/ebc/article-9382207/Richard-Wagner Britannica article: Richard Wagner]</ref>, and as a result, the Bridal Chorus is often not used at Jewish weddings. It is also generally discouraged for use at Roman Catholic weddings.{{Fact|date=February 2007}} *[[Johann Pachelbel]]'s [[Pachelbel's canon|Canon in D]] is often used as an alternative processional. *The "[[Wedding March (Mendelssohn)|Wedding March]]" from [[Felix Mendelssohn]]'s [[incidental music]] for the [[William Shakespeare|Shakespeare]] [[Play (theatre)|play]], ''[[A Midsummer Night's Dream]]'', often used as a recessional. *The "Toccata" from [[Charles-Marie Widor]]'s ''Symphony for Organ No. 5'', also used as a recessional. *Segments of the [[Ode To Joy]], the fourth movement of [[Ludwig van Beethoven]]'s [[Ninth Symphony]], sometimes make appearances at weddings; its message of unity is suitable for the occasion. *At wedding receptions, ''Der Ententanz'', a 1950s Swiss [[Oom-pah]] song known more commonly in America as ''[[Chicken Dance|The Chicken Dance]]'', has become a popular part of the reception dance music. {{multi-listen start}} {{multi-listen item|filename=Wagner_Bridal_Chorus.ogg|title=Bridal march|description=The [[Bridal Chorus]] from [[Richard Wagner]]'s opera [[Lohengrin (opera)|Lohengrin]]}} {{multi-listen end}} =====Chinese weddings===== Chinese music plays an important role in creating a happy, friendly environment during the wedding ceremony. A band of musicians with gongs and flute-like instruments accompanies the bride parade to groom's home. Similar music is also played at the wedding banquet. =====Jewish weddings===== At traditional Jewish weddings, a solemn, wordless tune is sung as the groom and then bride walk down the aisles. [[Chabad]] tradition is to sing a special tune composed by their founding Rebbe, Rabbi [[Shneur Zalman of Liadi]], the tune is comprised of four stanzas corresponding to the [[four worlds]] of [[kabbalistic]] cosmology, and is only sung at solemn occasions<ref>see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chabad_Niggunim#Niggunim_of_Rabbi_Shneur_Zalman_of_Liadi</ref>. During the recessional, lively Hebrew songs are sung by the guests, who escort the couple from the [[chuppah]]. ===Asian customs=== Customs vary throughout the [[Asia|Asian continent]]. ====Arabic customs==== Arabic weddings vary depending on the country and religion of the bride and groom. Although Christian weddings in the Arab World bear clear similarities to Western weddings, the Muslim weddings in the Arab countries are influenced by Muslim traditions. Muslim weddings (pre-arranged or not) start with a [[Shaikh]] and [[Al-Kitab]] (book) for the bride and groom. The groom may or may not see his bride until the wedding day. Men and women in wedding ceremonies and receptions are segregated affairs, with areas for both men and women. An old tradition, now rarely observed, involves the women at the ceremony symbolically mourning the loss of the bride by doing the "wedding wail". The bride's dress is an ornate [[Caftan]], and the bride's hands and feet are decorated in intricate lace-like patterns painted using a henna dye. Customarily women guests do not show their hair, shoulders or legs; and all guests at a Mosque remove their shoes on entering. Guests may give gifts to the bride and groom. Also, in many Arab countries including Syria, Jordan, Lebanon, and the Palestinian territories, the practice of carrying the bride and groom on chairs and dancing in a circle around them ([[dabke]]) is still carried out today. Many times, the bride and groom hold separate corners of a handkerchief. Arabs, nowadays, have Western-like weddings, but still preserve most Arab customs and traditions. {{Fact|date=February 2007}} ====Bengali customs==== {{main|Bengali wedding}} '''Bengali wedding''' refers to both [[Muslim]] [[wedding]] and [[Hindu wedding]] in [[Bangladesh]] and [[West Bengal]]. Although Muslim and Hindu marriages have their distinctive religious rituals, there are many common cultural rituals in marriages across religion among [[Bengali people]]. ====Chinese customs==== {{main|Chinese marriage}} {{see also|Chinese tea culture|Red packet}} '''Traditional Chinese marriage''' is a ceremonial ritual within [[China|Chinese]] societies that involve a marriage established by [[Arranged marriage|pre-arrangement between families]]. Within [[Chinese culture]], romantic love was allowed, and [[monogamy]] was the norm for most ordinary citizens. =====Cantonese customs===== {{main|Cantonese wedding}} Most '''Cantonese wedding''' rituals follow the main [[Chinese wedding]] traditions, although some rituals are unique to the Cantonese people. ====Filipino Customs==== Customs and superstitions regarding marriage in the [[Philippines]] vary. Some examples are: *The groom usually wears the [[Barong Tagalog]] during the wedding, along with the male attendants, though nowadays the wealthy opt to don Western attire such as a [[tuxedo]]. *''Sukob'': weddings held within the same year by two siblings, usually sisters, are frowned upon as it is regarded as bad luck. *Some hold it that the wedding rings dropping to the ground is a portent of bad luck (this is usually said to the ringbearer to ensure that the child is careful in handling the rings). *Money, in the form of paper bills, is sometimes taped or pinned to the groom and bride during the reception. ====Indian customs==== {{main|Indian wedding}} '''Indian weddings''' are very bright events, filled with [[ritual]] and [[celebration]], that continue for several days. They are not small affairs, often with 400-1000 people attending (many of whom are unknown to the [[bride]] and [[groom]]). Though arranged marriages were predominant, nowdays western influenced dating and "love" marriages have an equal following. =====Rajput customs===== {{main|Rajput wedding}} [[Rajput]]s - one of the major [[Hindu]] [[Kshatriya]] groups from India - traditionally had their own typical rituals of marriage as it is one of the most important functions of life. It is relation which is created for seven generations between the two families of the Bride & the Groom. It comprises a ceremony each for the ''TILAK'' (engagement), the ''BAN'' (starting of the wedding ceremony, ''MEL'' the community feast, the ''Nikasi'' is the departure of the Bridegroom party for the wedding, ''Sehla'' & ''Dhukav'' reception of wedding party at the Brides place be her parents. Solemnisation of wedding ''Sat Fere''. ====Japanese customs==== {{Expert-subject|Japan|date=April 2008}} Japanese wedding customs fall predominantly into two categories: traditional [[Shinto]] ceremonies, and modern Western-style ceremonies. In either case, the couple must first be legally married by filing for marriage at their local government office, and the official documentation must be produced in order for the ceremony to be held. =====Shinto ceremony===== [[Image:MeijiShrineWedding.jpg|thumb|right|A traditional [[Japan]]ese wedding ceremony]]Traditional [[Japanese people|Japanese]] wedding customs (shinzen shiki) involve an elaborate ceremony held at a [[Shinto]] [[shinto shrine|shrine]]. =====Western-style ceremony===== In recent years, the "Western Style Wedding" (influenced by a Christian church wedding) has become an increasingly popular choice. To that end, an entire industry has sprung up, dedicated to providing couples with a ceremony modeled after Protestant church ceremonies. Japanese western style weddings are generally held in a chapel, either in a simple or elaborate ceremony, often at a dedicated wedding chapel within a hotel. Typically, much like in Western ceremonies, the bride<!--, or shinpu,--> and groom<!--, or shinro, [Japanese terms should really go in above section once it gets filled in]--> get their own changing rooms within the chapel, as does the bride's father and any other important guest who requires such a room. There is also a room to hold the reception afterwards. Before the ceremony, there is a rehearsal. Often during this rehearsal, the bride's mother lowers the veil for her daughter, signifying the last act that a mother can do for her daughter, before "giving her away". The father of the bride, much like in Western ceremonies, walks the bride down the aisle to her awaiting groom. After the rehearsal comes the procession. The wedding celebrant will often wear a wedding cross, or cana, a cross with two interlocking wedding rings attached, which symbolize a couple's commitment to sharing a life together in the bonds of holy matrimony. The wedding celebrant gives a brief welcome and an introductory speech before announcing the bride's entrance. The procession ends with the groom bowing to the bride's father. The father bows in return. The service<!--, or kekkon shiki, [see note above]--> then starts. The service is given either in Japanese or English, or, in some cases, a mix of both. It follows a traditional Protestant ceremony, relaxed and not overtly religious. The opening hymn is usually the Japanese version of "What a Friend We Have in Jesus". Part of [[1 Corinthians]] 13 is read from the Bible. After the reading, there is a prayer and a short message, explaining the sanctity of the wedding vows (''seiyaku''). The bride and groom share their vows and exchange rings. The chapel register is signed and the new couple is announced. This is often followed by the traditional wedding kiss. The service concludes with another hymn and a benediction. ====Malay customs==== {{main|Malay wedding}} A '''Malay wedding''' ceremony spreads over two days, beginning with the ''akad nikah'' ceremony. The groom signs the marriage contract and agrees to provide the bride with a ''mas kahwin''(dowry). After that, their hands are dyed with henna during the berinai besar ceremony. The bride's hair is also trimmed or her eyebrows shaped by a beautician known as the ''mak andam''. ====Pakistani customs==== {{main|Pakistani wedding}} A [[Pakistan]]i wedding typically consist of four ceremonies on four separate days. ====Russian customs==== {{main|Russian wedding}} A traditional Russian [[wedding]] lasts for at least two days and some weddings last as long as a week. Throughout the celebration there is dancing, singing, long toasts, and a lot of food and drinks. The best man and maid of honor are called witnesses, “svideteli” in Russian. The ceremony and the ring exchange takes place on the first day of the wedding and on this special day many events take place. Throughout the years, Russian weddings have adopted many western cultures, including bridesmaids and flower girls. ===European customs=== Customs vary throughout the [[Europe|European continent]]. The [[Western culture|Western]] custom of a bride wearing a [[White wedding#History and traditions|white wedding dress]], came to symbolize purity in the [[Victorian era]] (despite popular misconception and the hackneyed jokes of [[situation comedies]] the white dress did not actually indicate [[virgin]]ity, which was symbolized by a face [[veil]]). Within the "[[white wedding]]" tradition, a white dress and veil would not have been considered appropriate in the second or third wedding of a widow or divorcee. The specific conventions of Western weddings, largely from a Protestant and Catholic viewpoint, are discussed at "[[White wedding]]." A wedding is often followed or accompanied by a [[wedding reception]], at which an elaborate [[wedding cake]] is served. Western traditions include [[toast (honor)|toast]]ing the couple, the [[newlywed]]s having the [[first dance]], and cutting the cake. A bride may throw her [[bouquet]] to the assembled group of all unmarried women in attendance, with folklore suggesting the person who catches it will be the next to wed. A fairly recent equivalent has the groom throwing the bride's [[Garter (stockings)|garter]] to the assembled unmarried men; the man who catches it is supposedly the next to wed. A modern tradition is for brides to wear or carry "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" during the service. It is considered good luck to do so. Often the bride attempts to have one item that meets all of these qualifications, such as a borrowed blue handkerchief which is "new to her" but loaned by her grandmother (thus making it old). Another addition to this custom is to wear a penny in your shoe, this will bring you prosperity. ====French customs==== In smaller French towns, the groom may meet his fiancée at her home on the day of the wedding and escort her to the chapel where the ceremony is being held. As the couple proceeds to the chapel, children will stretch long white ribbons across the road which the bride will cut as she passes. At the chapel, the bride and groom are seated on two red velvet chairs underneath a silk canopy called a ''carre''. Laurel leaves may be scattered across their paths when they exit the chapel. Sometimes small coins are also tossed for the children to gather. [[Image:Weddinghattonchatel.jpg|thumb|right|A traditional [[France|French]] wedding celebration at [[Château de Hattonchâtel]]]] At the reception, the couple customarily uses a toasting cup called a ''Coupe de Marriage''. The origin of giving this toast began in France, when a small piece of toast was literally dropped into the couple's wine to ensure a healthy life. The couple would lift their glass to "a toast", as is common in Western culture today. Some couples choose to serve a [[croquembouche]] instead of a [[wedding cake]]. This dessert is a pyramid of crème-filled pastry puffs, drizzled with a caramel glaze. At a more boisterous wedding, tradition involves continuing the celebration until very late at night. After the [[wedding reception|reception]], those invited to the wedding will gather outside the newlyweds' window and bang pots and pans. They are then invited into the house for some more drinks in the couple's honor, after which the couple is finally allowed to be alone for their first night together as husband and wife. Another practice common at wedding celebrations is ''[[Sabrage]]'': the "beheading" a bottle of [[Champagne (wine)|champagne]] with a [[sabre]] made for the occasion. It was started as a way for the [[Hussars]] (under [[Napoleon]]'s command) to celebrate victories and exhibit their horseback skills: they would "behead" the top off a bottle of champagne while on horseback. Legend has it that the skilled horsemen would ride at a full gallop while brave women held up bottles of champagne. The sabre must strike the neck of the bottle at exactly the right angle (champagne bottles have over 100 pounds of pressure per square inch). This practice spread throughout France as a way to celebrate special occasions. Decorative replicas of these special sabres can be purchased from [[artisans]] in [[Lyon, France]] (the French capital of [[cutlery]]). ====Italian customs==== In some parts of Italy, a party, known as a Serenade, is thrown outside of the bride’s home by the groom. His family and friends come and wait for the bride, entertaining themselves until she appears. The groom then sings to his bride to further seduce her. Once his song is sung, the party ends. The day of the wedding the groom’s men try their hardest to make the groom as uncomfortable as possible by saying things like “Maybe she forgot where the church is” It is also traditional for the grooms family to give a dowry to the bride and to provide the engagement ring. The bride’s family is then responsible for receiving the guests of the wedding in their home for a reception afterward. The color green is very important in the Italian wedding. In Italy, the tradition of some thing blue is replaced with something green. This color brings good luck to the married couple. The veil and brides maids also were important in an Italian wedding. The tradition began in Ancient Rome when the veil was used to hide the bride from any spirits that would corrupt her and the bridesmaids were to wear similar outfits so that the evil spirits were further confused. In [[Sicily|Sicilian]] customs, the dessert course is often presented as a [[Venetian Table]], a dazzling array of pastries, fruits, coffees, cakes, (etc) presented in great quantity with much celebration. This is often called Venetian Hour. After dessert, more dancing commences, gifts are given, and the guests eventually begin to leave. In Southern Italy, as the guests leave, they hand envelopes of money to the bride and groom, who return the gift with a [[wedding favor]], a small token of appreciation. ====Polish customs==== In Polish weddings the celebrations may continue for two or three days. In the past, the engagement ceremony was organized by the future groom as a formal family gathering, during which he asked his chosen lady to marry him. In the recent years this custom has changed and today an engagement is much more personal and intimate. An elegant dinner party afterwards is still a nice way to inform the closest family members about the couples' decision to get married. In some regions of Poland the tradition to invite the wedding guests in person is still upheld. Many young couples, accompanied by the parents, visit their family and friends to hand them the wedding invitations personally. According to the old tradition a groom arrives with his parents at the house of a bride just before the wedding ceremony. At that time both parents and parents-in-law give a young couple their blessing. The couple enter the church together and walks up to the altar followed by two witnesses and the parents. In Poland it is quite unusual for the bride to be walked down the aisle or to have bridesmaids and groomsmen in a wedding. The couple is assisted by two witnesses, a man (usually grooms' side) and a woman (usually brides' side) who are either family members or close friends. The Polish bride traditionally wears a white dress and a veil. The groom, on the other hand usually wears a fitted suit with a bow tie and a [[Boutonniere| boutonnière]] that matches the brides' bouquet. During the ceremony wedding rings are exchanged and both the husband and wife wear them on their right hand. When they leave the church the guests toss rice or coins at the married couple for good and prosperous future together. Right after the ceremony the closest family and all the guest form a line in the front of the church to congratulate the newlyweds and wish them love and happiness. As soon as the married couple leave the church they get showered with rice for luck or guests drop coins at their feet for them to pick up. Once all the guests have showered the couple with kisses, hugs and flowers everyone heads to the reception. It is a custom in Poland to prepare "passing gates" on the way to the reception for the newlyweds, who in order to pass have to give the "gate keepers" some vodka. This is a misinterpretation of an earlier tradition, when the "passing gates" were built when the bride was an orphan and money collected by "gate keepers" from the guests was handed over to the bride as her [[dowry]] (being orphan implied usually poverty). The married couple is welcomed at the reception place by the parents with bread and salt. The bread symbolizes the prosperity, salt stands for hardship of life, the parents wish the young couple that they never go hungry and learn how to deal with every day hardships together. The wedding party lasts (and the bride and groom remain) until the last guest leaves, usually until morning. In Poland, movements like [[Human Liberties Crusade]] <ref>http://www.kwc.oaza.org.pl/dokument.php?id=224 Krucjata Wyzwolenia Człowieka</ref> <ref>http://www.spontana.fora.pl/diakonia-wyzwolenia,44/wesela-bezalkoholowe-gazeta-wyborcza-o-kulturze-niepicia,505.html Lepiej łyknij wody [Gazeta Wyborcza - DUżY FORMAT] Witold Szabłowski </ref> or [[Wedding of the Weddings]] promote non-alcoholic wedding celebrations. ====Romanian customs==== {{main|Lăutari}} Lăutari are musicians performing traditional songs. The music of the lăutari establishes the structure of the elaborate [[Romania]]n peasant weddings. The lăutari also function as guides through the wedding rituals and moderate any conflicts that may arise during what can be a long, alcohol-fueled party. Over a period of nearly 48 hours, this can be very physically strenuous. Following custom almost certainly dating back at least to the [[Middle Ages]], most lăutari spend the fees from these wedding ceremonies on extended [[banquet]]s for their friends and families over the days immediately following the wedding. ====Scottish customs==== [[Scotland]] is a popular place for young English couples to get married since, in Scotland, parents' permission is not required if both the bride and groom are old enough to legally be married (16). In [[England]] it was the case that if either was 16 or 17 then the permission of parents had to be sought. Thus Scotland, and especially the blacksmith's at [[Gretna Green]], became a very popular place for couples to elope to, especially those under 18 and usually living in England. Gretna Green now hosts hundreds of weddings a year and is Scotland's third most popular tourist attraction. Customs: *The bride's family sends invitations on behalf of the couple to the wedding guests, addressed by hand. The couple may send the invitations themselves, especially if they are more middle-aged. The invites will specify if the invitation is for ceremony and/or reception and/or evening following the meal at the reception. *Guests send or deliver wedding [[gift]]s to the bride's family home before the wedding day. Alternatively, the couple may register at department store and have a list of gifts there. The shop then organizes delivery, usually to the bride's parents' house or to the reception venue. *A wedding ceremony takes place at a [[church]], [[register office]] or possibly another favorite location, such as a hilltop. In this regard Scotland differs significantly from England where only pre-approved public locations may be used for the wedding ceremony. Most ceremonies take place mid afternoon and last about half an hour during which the marriage schedule is signed by the couple and two witnesses, usually the best man and chief bridesmaid. *The newly wed couple usually leave the ceremony to the sound of [[bagpipe]]s. *There is a [[wedding reception]] following the ceremony, usually at a different venue. *The bridal party lines up in a receiving line and the wedding guests file past, introducing themselves. *Usually a drink is served while the guests and bridal party mingle. In some cases the drink may be [[whisky]] or [[wine]] with a non alcoholic alternative. *The [[best man]] and bride's father [[toast (honor)|toast]] the bride and groom with personal thoughts, stories, and well-wishes, usually humorous. The groom then follows with a response on behalf of his bride. [[Champagne (wine)|Champagne]] is usually provided for the toast. *There is nearly always dancing following the meal. Often in Scotland this takes the form of a [[ceilidh]], a night of informal traditional Scottish dancing in couples and groups to live traditional music. The first dance is led by the bride and groom, followed by the rest of the bridal party and finally the guests. *The cake-cutting ceremony takes place; the bride and groom jointly hold a cake cutter and cut the first pieces of the [[wedding cake]]. *Gifts are not opened at the reception; they are either opened ahead of time and sometimes displayed at the reception, or if guests could not deliver gifts ahead of time, they are placed on a table at the reception for the bride and groom to take home with them and open later. *A sprig of white [[Calluna|heather]] is usually worn as a buttonhole for good luck. *It is the norm for the groom and much of the male [[bridal party]] and guests to wear [[kilt]]s, although suits are also worn. Kilts and Highland dress are often hired for this purpose. ====Handfasting==== {{Main|Handfasting}} [[Handfasting]] is an ancient Celtic wedding ritual in which the bride's and groom's hands are tied together — hence the phrase "tying the knot". "Handfasting" is favored by practitioners of Celtic-based religions and spiritual traditions, such as [[Wicca]] and [[Druidism]].{{Fact|date=August 2007}} ===North American customs=== ====United States customs==== A Christian or other mainstream wedding and reception (including a Jewish wedding) in the United States follow a similar pattern to the Italian wedding. Customs and traditions vary but components include the following: *The bride wears “something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue.” {{seealso|Ceremonial clothing in Western cultures#Marriage}} *The bride usually wears a white dress. *A color scheme is often used so that the invitation matches the [[bridesmaid]]s' dresses and the table settings. *[[Rice]] is sometimes thrown at the newlyweds as they leave the ceremony. [http://ask.yahoo.com/20030626.html] *The bride's family sends engraved [[Wedding invitation|invitations]] to the wedding guests, addressed by hand (or in an elegant font) to show the importance and personal meaning of the occasion. *Guests send or deliver wedding [[gift]]s to the bride's family home before the wedding day. *A wedding ceremony takes place at a [[church]] or other location, such as an outdoor venue. At the [[wedding reception]] following the ceremony, sometimes at the same location but sometimes at a different venue: *The bridal party lines up in a [[receiving line]] and the wedding guests file past, introducing themselves. *Usually [[snack]]s or a [[meal]] are served while the guests and bridal party mingle. *Often the [[best man]] and/or [[maid of honor]] [[toast (honor)|toast]] the bride and groom with personal thoughts, stories, and well-wishes; sometimes other guests follow with their own toasts. [[Champagne (wine)|Champagne]], [[sparkling cider]], or nonalcoholic [[carbonated]] drinks are usually provided for this purpose. *Clinking [[silverware]] against [[glassware]] obliges the newlyweds to kiss. *If dancing is provided, the bride and groom first dance together. Often further protocol is followed, where they dance first with their respective mother and father, then possibly with the [[maid of honor]] and [[best man]]; then the bride and groom rejoin while the parents of the bride and groom join the dance and the best man and maid of honor dance together; then other attendants join in; then finally everyone is entitled to dance. Dancing continues throughout the reception. Music is sometimes provided by a live [[musical band|band]] or [[musical ensemble]], sometimes by a [[disc jockey]]. *In some cultures, the [[Dollar Dance|dollar dance]] takes place, in which it is expected and encouraged for guests to pin money onto the young bride and groom to give them a financial base to start their new lives. *The cake-cutting ceremony takes place; the bride and groom jointly hold a cake cutter—often a special silver keepsake cutter purchased or given as a gift for the occasion--and cut the first pieces of the [[wedding cake]]. They then entwine arms and feed each other a bite of cake. In some social groups, the bride and groom smear cake on each other's faces at this time. *The bride tosses her [[Flower bouquet|bouquet]] over her shoulder to the assembled unmarried women; the woman who catches it, superstition has it, will be the next to marry. In some social groups, the process is repeated for unmarried men with the groom tossing the bride's garter for the same purpose. *Gifts are not opened at the reception; they are either opened ahead of time and sometimes displayed at the reception, or if guests could not deliver gifts ahead of time, they are placed on a table at the reception for the bride and groom to take home with them and open later. =====Wedding gifts===== The purpose of inviting guests was to have them witness a couple's marriage ceremony and vows and to share in the bride and groom's joy and celebration. Gifts for the bride and groom are optional, although most guests attempt to give at least a token gift of their best wishes. Some brides and grooms and families feel, contrary to proper etiquette, that for the expense and effort they put into showing their guests a good time and to wine and dine them, the guests should reciprocate by providing nice gifts or cash. The couple often ''[[bridal registry|registers]]'' for gifts at a store well in advance of their wedding. This allows them to create a list of household items, usually including china, silverware and crystalware; often including linen preferences, pots and pans, and similar items. With brides and grooms who might already be independent and have lived on their own, even owning their own homes, they sometimes register at hardware or home improvement stores. Registries are intended to make it easy for guests who wish to purchase gifts to feel comfortable that they are purchasing gifts that the newlyweds will truly appreciate. The registry information should, according to etiquette, be provided only to guests who request it. Some couples register with services that enable money gifts intended to fund items such as a [[honeymoon registry|honeymoon]], home purchase or college fund. Some guests may find [[bridal registry|bridal registries]] inappropriate. They can be seen as an anathema to traditional notions behind gift buying, such as contravening the belief that "one should be happy for what they receive", taking away the element of surprise, and leading to present buying as a type of competition, as the couple knows the costs of each individual item. It may also be seen by some as inappropriate to invite people who do not know either the bride or groom well enough to be able to pick out an appropriate gift. =====African-American customs===== {{main|Jumping the broom}} Jumping the broom developed out West African [[Ashanti Confederacy|Asante]] custom. The broom in Asante and other Akan cultures also held spiritual value and symbolized sweeping away past wrongs or warding off evil spirits. Brooms were waved over the heads of marrying couples to ward off spirits. The couple would often but not always jump over the broom at the end of the ceremony. The custom took on additional significance in the context of [[slavery in the United States]]. Slaves had no right to legal marriage; slaveholders considered slaves property and feared that legal marriage and family bonds had the potential to lead to organization and revolt. Marriage rituals, however, were important events to the Africans, who came in many cases come from richly-ceremonial African cultures. Taking [[marriage vows]] in the presence of a [[witness]] and then leaping over the handle of a [[broom]] became the common practice to create a recognized union. Brooms are also symbols of the [[hearth]], the center of the new family being created. Jumping the broom has become a practice in many modern weddings between Black Americans.{{Fact|date=February 2007}} There are also traditions of broom jumping in Europe, in the Wicca and Celtic communities especially. They are probably unconnected with the African practice.{{Fact|date=February 2007}} =====North American Jewish customs===== The traditions used in a Jewish wedding are adhered to in varying forms based on the [[Jewish denominations|denomination of Judaism]] of the people being married. Some common themes are found throughout:<ref name="Aish">{{cite web |url=http://www.aish.com/literacy/lifecycle/Guide_to_the_Jewish_Wedding.asp|format=html|title= Guide to the Jewish Wedding|accessdate=2008-07-03}}</ref><ref name="My Jewish Learning">{{cite web |url=http://www.myjewishlearning.com/lifecycle/Marriage/LiturgyRitualCustom/Nissuin.htm|format=html|title= Nissuin: The Second of the Two Ceremonies|accessdate=2008-07-03}}</ref><ref name="Understanding the Jewish Wedding">{{cite web |url=http://www.rebgoldie.com/Wedding.htm|format=html|title=Understanding the Jewish Wedding |accessdate=2008-07-03}}</ref><ref name="The Knot">{{cite web |url=http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI990319162|format=html|title= Ceremony: Jewish Wedding Rituals |accessdate=2008-07-03}}</ref><ref name="Jewish Art">{{cite web |url=http://www.jhom.com/lifecycle/marriage/art.htm|format=html|title= Marriage in Jewish Art|accessdate=2008-07-03}}</ref> * Before the ceremony, the couple formalize a written [[ketubah]] (marriage contract), specifying their obligations to each other and contingencies in case of divorce. * The couple is married under a wedding canopy ([[chuppah]]), signifying their new home together. The chuppah can be made by attaching together two prayer shawls ([[talit]]), but may also be made from other cloth, or even, in less traditional ceremonies, from balloons or flowers. * The couple is accompanied to the chuppah by both sets of parents, and stands under the chuppah accompanied by many family members. * The couple share a glass of wine * The couple declares that each is sanctified to the other, and/or repeats other vows, and exchanges rings. In Orthodox and traditional Jewish weddings, only the bride receives a ring, and only the groom speaks. * The ceremony ends with the groom, or both participants, stepping on the wine glass, while the assembled congregation shouts [[mazel tov]]. The reasons given for this act vary from making a loud noise to scare away bad luck, to breaking the shared glass as a sign that no one else can partake in relations between the couple, to a symbolic spilling of blood (the wine dregs) to symbolize the wedding night, to a remembrance even at joyous occasions of the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem, to bringing revelers back to the reality of daily living, to (jestingly) the groom's last chance to put his foot down. In some ceremonies, a [[lightbulb]] is substituted because it makes a more satisfying noise when broken. * The couple retire from the post-wedding festivities to briefly spend some time alone together. Many of these traditions stem from much older marriage customs, and are directly relevant to Talmudic law regarding marriage. ===African customs=== ====Pygmy wedding traditions==== Pygmy engagements were not long and usually formalized by an exchange of visits between the families concerned. The groom to be would bring a gift of game or maybe a few arrows to his new in-laws, take his bride home to live in his band and with his new parents. His only obligation is to find among his relatives a girl willing to marry a brother or male cousin of his wife. If he feels he can feed more than one wife, he may have additional wives. ==Religious aspects of weddings== {{rewrite-section|The intro to this section is about marriage, and needs to be rewritting to discuss weddings ceremonies and traditions instead, as does the section on Christian customs. A large amount of info in the section on Jewish customs is commented out and needs to be incorporated. Sections on other religious customs such as Islamic and Shinto eddings would also be helpful.}}{{Expand-section|date=April 2008}}In virtually all [[religion]]s, [[marriage]] is a life-long union between two or more people and is established with ceremonies and [[ritual]]s. The people are most commonly one [[man]] and one [[woman]]{{Fact|date=April 2008}}, though some religions have permitted [[polygamous]] marriages and some faiths and denominations recognize [[same-sex marriage]]s. In marriage, Christians see a picture of the relationship between Jesus Christ and His Church. In [[Judaism]], marriage is so important that remaining unmarried is deemed unnatural. [[Islam]] also recommends marriage highly; among other things, it helps in the pursuit of spiritual perfection. The [[Bahá'í Faith]] sees [[Bahá'í marriage|marriage]] as a foundation of the structure of society, and considers it both a physical and spiritual bond that endures into the [[afterlife]].<ref name="oneworld">{{cite encyclopedia |last=Smith |first=Peter |encyclopedia=A concise encyclopedia of the Bahá'í Faith |title=Marriage |year=2000 |publisher=Oneworld Publications |location=Oxford |id=ISBN 1-85168-184-1 |pages=p. 232-233}}</ref> [[Hinduism]] sees marriage as a sacred duty that entails both religious and social obligations. By contrast, [[Buddhism]] does not encourage or discourage marriage, although it does teach how one might live a happily married life and emphasizes that married vows are not to be taken lightly (see [[Buddhist view of marriage|separate article]] for details). Different religions have different beliefs as regards the breakup of marriage. For example, the [[Roman Catholic Church]] believes it is morally wrong to [[divorce]], and divorcées cannot remarry in a church marriage, though they can do in the eyes of the law. In the area of [[Nullity (conflict)|nullity]], religions and the state often apply different rules, meaning that a couple, for example, could have their marriage annulled by the Catholic Church but still be married in the eyes of the law because the state disagrees with the church over whether an annulment can be granted in a given case. This produces the phenomenon of Catholics getting church annulments simultaneously with civil divorces, so that they may remarry both legally and sacramentally. The Catholic Church will not, in fact, grant an annulment petition unless the marriage has also been dissolved or annulled under civil law. ===Detailed viewpoints on various wedding customs=== *[[handfasting]] ===Customs associated with various religions=== ====Christian customs==== Many religions have extensive teachings regarding marriage. Most [[Christianity|Christian]] churches give some form of blessing to a marriage; the wedding ceremony typically includes some sort of pledge by the community to support the couple's relationship. A '''church wedding''' is a ceremony presided over by a Christian [[priest]] or pastor. Ceremonies are based on reference to [[God]], and are frequently embodied into other church ceremonies such as [[Holy Mass]] <ref>http://www.holyspiritchurch.com/weddingarr.htm Making Wedding Arrangements at Holy Spirit Church</ref>. Customs may vary widely between denominations. In the Roman Catholic Church "Holy Matrimony" is considered to be one of the seven sacraments, in this case one that the spouses bestow upon each other in front of a priest and members of the community as witnesses. An argument for the institution of the sacrament of Matrimony by Christ Jesus himself, and its occasion, is advanced by Bernard Orchard in his article ''The Betrothal and Marriage of Mary to Joseph''. [http://www.catholic.net/rcc/Periodicals/Homiletic/2001-10/orchard.html] [http://www.catholic.net/rcc/Periodicals/Homiletic/2001-11/orchard.html] [http://uk.geocities.com/ducatumevangelii@btinternet.com/Maryandjoseph1a.htm] In the Eastern Orthodox church, it is one of the Mysteries, and is seen as an ordination and a martyrdom. =====Quaker customs===== {{Main|Quaker wedding}} A [[Quaker wedding]] ceremony in a Friends meeting is similar to any other Meeting for Worship, and therefore often very different from the experience expected by non-Friends. ====Hindu customs==== {{main|Hindu wedding}} '''North and South Indian wedding''' ceremonies are conducted at least partially in [[Sanskrit]], the language in which most holy [[Hindu]] ceremonies are conducted. The local language of the people involved is also used since most Hindus cannot understand [[Sanskrit]]. They may have rituals that differ fom the modern western [[wedding]] ceremony and also among the different regions, families, and [[caste]]s such as [[Rajput Wedding]], Aggarwal Weddings, [[Iyer]] Weddings and Tamil Weddings. The ceremonies are colourful and extend for several days. ====Orthodox Jewish customs==== {{Splitsection| discuss=talk:Wedding#Jewish wedding}} {{Main|Jewish view of marriage}} The following documents Orthodox Jewish marriage customs and beliefs. * The day of one's wedding is a time when a person's sins are forgiven and is considered to be like a personal, mini-[[Yom Kippur]].<ref>[[Kitzur Shulchan Aruch]] 146:1</ref><ref>Choshmas Adam 129:1</ref><ref>[[Talmud]] Yevamot 63b</ref><ref>Responsa [[Moses Halevi Mintz|Maharam Mintz]] 109</ref> For this reason, the bride (''kallah'') and groom (''chatan'') fast until the ceremony, unless the wedding is held on a day when fasting is not permitted, such as [[Rosh Chodesh]] or [[Chanukah]].<ref>>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:2</ref><ref>Choshmas Adam 129:1</ref><ref>[[Shulchan Aruch]] ''[[Even Haezer]]'' [[Moses Isserles|Ramoh]] 61:1</ref><ref>[[Orach Chayim]] 573:1</ref> The bride and groom will include Yom Kippur prayers in their ''[[mincha]]'' (afternoon prayers).<ref>>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:4</ref> The bride and groom are accompanied by a ''shomer'', or chaperon, from the time they wake up on their wedding day, usually accomplished by a close friend or relative. * The bride and groom have a ''Shtar haTana'im'' (lit. "document of conditions") drawn up, comitting the groom to his chosen bride.<ref>Adler, Binyamin. ''Sefer hanisuim Kehilchatam'' hamesorah Publishing, Jerusalme, 1985. chapter 3, paragraph 184-5.</ref> In the age of the [[Talmud]], it was customary for the bride and groom to be "engaged" for approximately one year prior to the completion of the marriage; the two parts of the wedding ceremony, ''erusin'' and ''nisu'in'', occurred a year apart. The ''Shtar haTana'im'' was a more informal declaration of the couple's intentions. Like all legal documents in Judaism, it is signed by two witnesses. Because the reading of the ''shtar'' is one of the first of many official rituals of the joyous wedding ceremony, a plate is smashed after the public reading of the ''shtar''.<ref>[[Kitzur Shulchan Aruch]] 126:2</ref> This smashing is usually done by the two mothers of the bridal couple. * A [[ketubah]] (marriage contract) is arrainged, specifying the bride and groom's obligations to each other and contingencies in case of divorce.<ref>[[Mordechai Becher]]. ''Gateway to Judaism: The What, How and Why of Jewish Life'', [[Artscroll]] Publishing, page 21.</ref> In Orthodox tradition, this contract is then kept hidden in the household, while in Conservative and Reform traditions it is often created and displayed as a work of art. The signing of the ketubah may occur in private before the public ceremony. The ketubah is signed by two witnesses.<ref>Irving A. Breitowitz. ''Between Civil and Religious Law'', Greenwood Publishing Group, 1993.</ref> The ketubah must be kept in a secure place for the duration of the marriage, because in the event it is lost or stolen, the couple may not be intimate until a replacement is drawn up.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:17</ref><ref>[[Talmud]] Ketuvot 10a</ref><ref>[[Chelkat Mechokek]], [[Even Haezer]] 66:2</ref> * In order to increase the excitement of the wedding day, there is an [[Ashkenazi|Ashkenazic]] custom, although it has become more widespread, for couples to deliberately cease all forms of contact for one week prior to the wedding day.<ref>Sefer Haminhagim ([[Lubavitch]]), page 79</ref><ref>[[Aryeh Kaplan|Kaplan, Rabbi Aryeh]]. ''Made in Heaven'', page 67.</ref> * Just prior to the ''[[chuppah]]'', the groom is marched in to see the bride at what has been come to be called the ''bedekin'', or "veiling". It is here that the bride's veil is lowered to cover her face,<ref>Even Haezer, Ramoh 31:2</ref><ref>[[Tosafot]] Talmud Yoma, 13b, "ulechada"</ref> just like [[Rebecca]] covered her face when she first saw her husband, Isaac.<ref>[[Genesis]] 24:65</ref><ref>[[Maharil]], ''Hilchot Nissu'in''</ref> There is a custom for the groom and others to bless the bride with the verse from [[Genesis]] 24:60, "You shall be the mother of multitudes."<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, 147:3</ref> In order to remember the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem, the bride's veil contains no silver or gold strands.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 126:2</ref> For those brides and grooms who have kept apart for the week preceding the wedding, this will be the first time they see each other since before their separation. * The couple is married under a ''chuppah'' (wedding canopy) and it was customary for the chuppah to be under the open sky, to fulfill the verse in [[Exodus]] 15:5, "Thus like the stars shall your children be."<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, 147:1</ref><ref>Choshmas Adam 129:1</ref> Most modern-day wedding halls possess a sliding roof or folding hatch directly above the location of the chuppah that is kept open for the duration of the ceremony. The chuppah can be made of most any material, but customarily takes the form of a cloth suspended by four poles.<ref>[[Avraham Danzig|Chochmas Adam]] 129:1</ref> Some have the family custom of using prayer shawls (''[[talit|talitot]]'') for the cloth roof. The ''chuppah'' represents the new home of the couple<ref>[[Levush]], Even Haezer 54:1</ref><ref>[[Vilna Gaon]], Even Haezer 55:9</ref><ref>[[Aruch Hashulchan]], Even Haezer 55:18</ref> and is similar to the tent of [[Abraham]], which was open on all four sides as an invitation to guests. Ideally, the wedding should not occur when the bride is in a state of ''[[niddah]]''.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:1</ref> * The groom and bridge are led down the aisle to the ''chuppah'' accompanied by their sets of parents, respectively. If either the bride or the groom come from broken or scandelous homes or are converts, some will walk down accompanied by an upstanding, righteous couple of their community. * The groomsmen dress the groom in a ''[[kittel]]''.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:4</ref> This white robe is customarily worn on a number of other occasions, such as on [[Yom Kippur]], as well as by the deceased when they are buried. The purpose of the ''kittel'' is to remind the groom of the "day of death" and to "awaken him to repent".<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:4</ref> It is also customary for ashes to be placed upon the forehead of the groom<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:4</ref><ref>Choshmas Adam 129:17</ref> as yet another recollection of the destruction of the Holy Temple. In keeping with the symbolism of the ''chuppah'' as their new home, the groom exits slightly when the bride approaches to welcome and bring her in.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:5</ref> After entering the ''chuppan'', Ashkenazic custom calls for the bridesmaids, together with the bride, to encircle the groom seven times<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:5</ref> to symbolize the woman's capacity to protect her husband from harm.<ref>''Sefer Taamei Haminhagim 967</ref> * It is only after the bride and groom are standing together under the ''chuppah'' that the chief ceremonies of the Jewish wedding take place. First, the leader of the arbitrator leading the ceremony (''misader kiddushin'') makes two blessings: the first on wine and the second on the act of ''kiddushin'', or marriage.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:3</ref> After he finishes the blessings, both the bride and groom drink some of the wine. The groom then declares that the bride is sanctified to him with the central statement of the wedding ceremony and the giving of the ring: ''Hare at mekudeshet li betaba' at zo k'dat Moshe v' Yisrael'', ("With this ring you are consecrated to me as my wife in accordance with the law (more accurately, religious teaching) of [[Moses]] and the people Israel." A ring is not necessary; in fact anything of sufficient value may be used to wed, as long as the item belongs entirely and properly to the groom.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:16</ref> Two kosher witnesses must see the item of value being passed from the groom to the bride.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:16</ref> Because the ring giving bears significance as a legal transaction in [[Jewish]] law, the wedding ceremony may not take place on [[shabbos]] or [[Jewish holiday]]s with sabbath-like work restictions.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:13</ref><ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, 148:4</ref> *In Orthodox and traditional Jewish weddings, only the bride receives a ring, and only the groom speaks. For those who hold a dual-ring ceremony, the bride may present the ring to the groom at this point with the phrase ''Ani l'dodi v'dodi li'' ("I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine"). * After the initial two blessings and the ring giving, the [[ketubah]] is read aloud as an interlude<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:3</ref> between the first portion of the wedding ceremony, ''kiddushin'', and the second portion, known as ''ni'suin''. As the ketubah is generally written in [[Aramaic]] (the common language in the times of the [[Talmud]], which is similarly written in Aramaic), it is important to appoint someone who is fluent in that language. * The ''chuppah'' ceremony continues with ''nisu'in'', during which seven blessings are made over another cup of wine. In Orthodox tradition, ten males over the age of [[bar mitzvah]] in attendance are necessary for the recitation of the first six of these blessings.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:3</ref><ref>Choshmas Adam 129:6</ref> As an honor, a number of [[rabbi]]s, community leaders or relatives and close friends may be called upon to recite the seven blessings, known in [[Hebrew]] as [[sheva brachot]]. If the bride and groom have both been previously married, only three blessings are recited.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:4</ref> * The ceremony ends with the groom stepping on a glass to comemorate the destruction of the Holy Temple in [[Jerusalem]].<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 126:2</ref> In some ceremonies, a [[lightbulb]] is substituted. * The couple is then joyously accompanied to a private room to complete the official wedding ceremony with ''yichud'', or seclusion.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:13</ref><ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, 148:1</ref> It is imperitive that the couple be allowed to remain alone for a certain period of time in order to validate the marriage. *It is in keeping with the joyous occasion of a wedding that the invitees dance in front of, entertain and praise the new couple.<ref>Choshmas Adam 129:17</ref> Many of these traditions stem from much older marriage customs, and are directly relevant to talmudic law regarding marriage. There are several activities that may take place during the reception, depending upon the sensitivitis or family traditions of the wedding party: *A dance in which the bride and groom hold opposite corners of a handkerchief while they are lifted up on chairs by the guests and whirled around. *The '''Krenzl''', in which the bride's mother is crowned with a wreath of flowers as her daughters dance around her (traditionally at the wedding of the mother's last unwed daughter). *The '''Mizinke''', a dance for the parents of the bride or groom when their last child is wed. *The '''gladdening of the bride''', in which guests dance around the bride, and can include the use of "shtick" -- silly items such as signs, banners, costumes, confetti, and jump ropes made of table napkins. *The singing of '''Aishet Chayil''' to the bride by the groom, accompanied by his friends. ====LDS customs==== {{Mergefrom|Mormon wedding open house|Talk:Wedding#Merger proposal|date=February 2008}} {{Main|Celestial marriage}} Within [[The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints]] (also known as Mormons), the act of marriage is regarded as an eternal affair. As such, there are two kinds of marriages recognized by the Church, civil marriage and celestial marriage. Civil marriages are those legally contracted under local law and are dissolved upon the death of the participants, while celestial marriages, also known as [[Sealing (Latter Day Saints)|sealings]], bind the participants as husband and wife for all eternity if both are righteous. Celestial marriages can only be performed by [[Priesthood (Latter Day Saints)|Priesthood]] authority within a Sealing Room in a dedicated [[Temple (Latter Day Saints)|temple]]. Only members of the LDS church who have a temple recommend may attend an LDS wedding. The wedding is often referred to as a sealing, in which husband and wife are sealed beyond death into the next life. Space is limited in sealing rooms so only family and close friends attend. The sealing can be performed at the same approximate time as the civil marriage or for a couple civilly married for at least one year. In the latter case, if the couple already has children, they may also accompany the ceremony to be sealed to their parents. Children who are born to parents who have already been sealed need no such ceremony, as they have been "born in the covenant." Many LDS couples will then hold wedding receptions or [[Mormon wedding open house|open houses]] after the wedding ceremony in another venue that is open to all family and friends. Some couples choose to recreate a more traditional wedding ceremony, or will simply perform certain traditional acts, such as the throwing of the bouquet, first dance, etc. ==Economic aspects== In the [[United Kingdom]], the average wedding cost approximately £20,000 in 2005<ref name="AT wedding">{{cite web | publisher=[[Alliance Trust]] |url=http://www.alliancetrust.co.uk/pdfs/research_centre/weddings.pdf |format=pdf |title=Weddings - the Burden of Cost |date=2007-03-01 |accessdate=2008-04-08}}</ref>. This means that couples wait longer before getting married, with the average age of those getting married 6.7 years higher than 20 years previously. ==Gallery== <center><gallery> Image:Pernikahan.jpg|[[Sundanese]] wedding in [[Indonesia]]. Image:Egypt-Nubian wedding.jpg|Nubian wedding, near [[Aswan]], [[Egypt]]. Image:Wedding at the Victory Monument in Minsk 2007-03-03.jpg|Wedding ceremony at the Victory Monument in [[Minsk]]. Image:Maria Palowicz i Karol Semik - 1936.jpg|Wedding in Poland, 1936. <!-- Deleted image removed: Image:Bengali wedding edit1.jpg|Bride and groom wearing traditional [[Bengali wedding]] costumes, from [[Bangladesh]]. --> Image:East Timorese hakka wedding.jpg|Ethnic [[Hakka]] people in a wedding in East Timor, 2006. Image:Japanese Wedding Day.jpg|Japanese bride and groom, wearing white and black [[kimono]]s respectively. The Japanese bride-to-be is painted pure white from head to toe, visibly declaring her maiden status to the gods; a white hood is attached to her kimono, which the bride wears like a veil to hide her 'horns of jealousy' from the groom's mother, who will now become the head of the family. Image:Whitweddingcake.jpg|A wedding cake. Image:CIMG6034.JPG|Two decorated mustangs. Image:Gaywedding4.jpg|Two grooms at their same-sex wedding in [[Wellington]], [[New Zealand]]. Image:Bride-boquet-toss.jpg|A new bride tossing her [[flower bouquet]] over her shoulder. [[Image:Wedding-rings-02.jpg|right|thumb|Wedding rings]] </gallery></center> ==See also== {{commonscat|Wedding ceremonies}} {{wiktionarypar|wedding}} ===Wedding traditions=== *[[Wedding band|Wedding band (or ring)]] *[[Wedding invitation]] *[[Participants in wedding ceremonies]] *[[Shotgun wedding]] ===Ceremony aspects=== *[[Wedding cake]] *[[Wedding videography]] *[[Wedding photography]] *[[Personal wedding website]]s ===Related travel=== *[[Honeymoon]] *[[Wedding trip]] (traveling to meet a bride or groom in an arranged marriage) ===Religious aspects=== *[[Chastity]] *[[Celibacy]] *[[Spiritual marriage]] *[[Traditional marriage movement]] *[[Major world religions]] ===Related events and social processes=== *[[Bachelor party]] *[[Banns of marriage]] *[[Betrothal]] *[[Bridal shower]] *[[Bride price]] *[[Brideservice]] *[[Dowry]] *[[Dower]] *[[Handfasting]] *[[Mayian]] *[[Prenuptial agreement]] *[[Wedding anniversary]] *[[Pakistani wedding]] *[[Shaadi]] ==References== <!--See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Footnotes for an explanation of how to generate footnotes using the <ref(erences/)> tags--> {{reflist}} ==External links== *[http://www.muslim-marriage-guide.com/muslim-marriage-culture.html Muslim wedding cultures] *[http://www.chabad.org/article.asp?AID=313716 Laws and Customs of the Jewish wedding] *[http://www.artkwadrat.pl/polish_wedding_traditions.pdf Polish wedding customs] <!--Categories--> [[Category:Marriage and religion]] [[Category:Religious ethics]] [[Category:anthropology]] [[Category:Marriage]] [[Category:Wedding| ]] <!--Other languages--> [[ar:زفاف]] [[cs:Svatba]] [[da:Bryllup]] [[de:Heirat]] [[et:Abiellumine]] [[es:Boda]] [[fr:Noces]] [[gd:Banais]] [[id:Pernikahan]] [[it:Nozze]] [[he:חתונה]] [[lv:Kāzas]] [[lt:Vestuvės]] [[nl:Bruiloft]] [[ja:結婚式]] [[no:Bryllup]] [[nn:Vigsel]] [[nrm:Neuche]] [[pl:Ślub]] [[pt:Boda]] [[ru:Свадьба]] [[sk:Sobáš]] [[sl:Poroka]] [[fi:Häät]] [[sv:Bröllop]] [[th:การแต่งงาน]] [[vi:Lễ cưới]] [[tr:Düğün]] [[yi:חתונה]] [[zh:婚礼]]